Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Mastering the Art of Putting Myself Out There

For years, I have been using this platform to share my thoughts, opinions, and varying perspectives of the world. When I started this blog in 2009 under The Sweetheart Chronicles, I had no idea blogging in itself would become such a big deal. I had no way of predicting the rise of social media or that it would one day be a legitimate way for people to generate income. 

Even when I started to realize what blogging had become, I still didn't mind doing it for free, not willing to actually make something of it. I had no desire to become someone I'm not. I did I want to compete for popularity or connect just for the sake of collaborating. Even upon having adapted a more tolerable attitude when it comes to networking, sometimes I'll watch it all play out like some twisted version of Mean Girls, and I reach this point where I'm like: you know what...no thank you, keep ALL of it. 

 

I've recently decided it was time for a different approach. I wanted to get to a place where I wasn't afraid to put myself out there anymore, so I decided to stop sleeping on myself. I was going to boss up and share the work I was so damn proud of. That confidence didn't come overnight.

It wasn't that I didn't think I was good. All my life I'd been told writing is my gift, something I was naturally good at, and I believed them. People would singe praises about my work. I'd even quietly applaud myself for the things that came out when I simply allow my words to flow. However, I didn't see the point of promoting any of it.

As you can probably imagine, promoting myself was a little frustrating at first. Although I felt like a vet in the game at that point, I was getting rejected like a rookie; no one wanted to take a chance on me.  I spent all this time researching different brands and who to talk to, developing well articulated emails and cover letters, but would rarely hear anything back from anyone. Nothing I pitched was good enough and I felt invisible. Gradually, I resorted back to my little world, slowly losing hope and  closing myself off again. I remembered why I didn't care to put myself out there in the first place. I can't lie and say I don't still have days where I feel discouraged. In fact, a couple times a month, where I want nothing more than to crawl back into my shell and allow people to find me on their own. That's how it used to be and it worked just fine back then.

However, we do live in a different time now. I'm learning how to accept that more each day. 

Instead of shunning the market by shying away and hiding away in this little unknown corner of internet diaspora, I began to look for opportunities to promote myself more and creative ways to connect with brands that aligned with my passions and my interest. Rather than resist times changing, I can learn how to make the shift benefit me and reevaluate what I'm aiming to accomplish through content creation. 


That's the thing about listening to those dreams that God places in your heart; there's always going to be this powerful force beyond you that keeps pulling you back to the thing you love. You keep trying, you keep grinding and you continue to push the envelope. It won't let you give up. 

Now that I've allowed myself to fall into that gravity of always finding reasons to keep pursuing what I love, the results are slowly starting to pay off...in small and significant ways.

Brands are reaching out to me first, requesting services I never ever even promoted in exchange for compensation. The Sky Box Suite is starting to gain more attention and publicity that is well received. Some of my best journalistic work is now being featured on broader platforms like xoNecole and I'm learning so much in the process. No matter how many times I thought no one was tuning in, there is some satisfaction in finally being heard. Sometimes, being recognized by the right people at the right time, makes all the years of hard work so worth it.

There was a quote I came across that read: 
"Sometimes it takes 10 years to get to that 1 year that will change your life."

I'm realizing that there may actually be some truth to that. Like I've said many times to myself and a few times on the blog: when I'm aligned with my purpose, things start to fall into place. Doors begin to open. The right people and opportunities magically show up. 

To the content creators who often feel overwhelmed and overshadowed: At the end of the day, it's all a matter of perspective and perseverance. The industry you're in doesn't matter. Just keep working. Keep creating and/or coming up with new ways to be creative. Most importantly, never stop believing in yourself. 

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