Saturday, September 13, 2014


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How many times have we witnessed it? Where people think that, somehow, rape and general disrespect should be the norm? We have formulated this twisted logic about how girls should present themselves, then mothers/fathers blindly pass the senselessness on to their daughters, yet the ideals being embedded in the sons aren't even close to cohesive while trying to creating a fair balance. It has less to do with being "pro-woman" than simply having a regard for not just humanity, but the very vessels who are responsible for bringing life into this world. Just take a look at the statistics; the numbers in the United States alone are unbelievable. According to the U.S. Department of Justice's National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), approximately 238,000 victims of rape and sexual assault per year, 60% of these go unreported to the police, and 97% of rapist never spend a day in jail. As much as I hate being the bearer of bad news, I will not allow my silence to be apart of the problem.

Short skirts, drunk/loose women, the pure silhouette of a woman's body, etc. are all things that entice men who aren't taught to be respectful or to have self control. Women are forced to walk on eggshells, careful not to awaken the sexual senses of men, because some (not all) men, sometimes women, will be the first to acknowledge when she's not so careful. The common phrase seems to be 'She should expect it', therefore approaching her in sexual regard-despite her wishes- is deemed okay. No, it's not okay, it's never okay, and men and women alike need to learn this in order to heal the ever growing rape epidemic happening globally.

"Consensual sex" is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as "non consensual sex", which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say "breathing swimming" and "non breathing swimming", you say swimming and drowning.
I'm not sure who quoted that, but I couldn't have said it any better. We live in a society where the roots of epidemics such as rape and sexual harassment are almost overlooked. The terminology is changed so that the acts are justified. What is even more unfortunate is that when a woman speaks out, about, or against it, she gets all kinds of hostile backlash in return, immediately labeled as angry, anti-men, feminist, which is something I don't consider myself to be at all. Some women are passive about it, just because the topic itself is too controversial, too intense. However, something needs to be said, no matter how redundant, until there are more solutions than problems, until the news is quicker to cover human rights than celeb gossip, until women in general can live in a world where they are protected and placed at their rightful value.

Please understand that this is not to negate that women should be mindful of how they present themselves. The issue I have is the lessons we're not holding men to a certain standard either.  I'm all for gender roles in respects to men and women each playing their part in society and there are certainly somethings in a man's role that aren't appropriate in a woman's and vise versa. There just needs to be a larger wave of people who are actively concerned with seeing justice prevail.

♥ Chymere A.

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