Saturday, December 28, 2013

Good Vibes Only

Clubbing and bar hopping got old to me really fast. Even years after realizing I outgrew it, I would still go, because that's what the people I hung out with did on the weekends. It may not seem like a legit reason, but I'm just being honest. At one point it was so uncomfortable, you know, to be so outside of my element in dark swanky bars and suffocating clubs, but liquor makes everything better for a moment, right? I ignored the pain and drowned my conscious thoughts in full bottles, feeling empty. The return home was always my most cherished part of the night. I took off my clothes, took off my mask, and laid right next to a dog that, even now, seems to understand me better than humans do most days.

As of lately, I find comfort in saying 'no'. At times I feel bad about it, because those "friends" take my rejection to invites personally. However, I'm learning more each day how to be true to myself, which means not filling my space and time with things that aren't aligned with who I am anymore. The individuals who fail to understand are probably the ones who aren't growing with me. I do understand that we all progress at different paces, but I can't allow other people to keep me where they are. I just have to move forward and pray that the ones who are stagnant find the motivation to do that as well, with or without me.

It's Saturday 3:42 am. I'm not out roaming the streets, in search of a new 'move' to fulfill my drunken desires to keep partying on the "scene" or wrapping my intelligence and my value around a man who has nothing to offer me, except a cheap drink. I am in my pajamas in the same place I have been most of yesterday. When I did leave the house, it was to spend quality time with my mother. There is nothing wrong with partying or being social with good company, but I have no interest in it on a level outside of celebrating life and all the major and minor successes of myself and others. I don't like the thought of being at the same old bar, around the same blinded people, but I do like it here, where my silence, my presence, are appreciated. I am not bored with my own company and certainly no longer seek validation from my peers. 

What a complete 180...


Chymere Anais

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 81 {Christmas Tunes + Loving at the Moment}

Favorite Christmas Tunes:

  1. The Christmas Song x Nat King Cole + Frank Sinatra
  2. Jingle Bells x Brute Force Steel Band
  3. Christmas in New Orleans x Louis Armstrong
  4. That's What I Want for Christmas x Nancy Wilson
  5. Have Yourself a Merry Christmas x Al Jarreau
  6. Meet Me at the Mistletoe x Dave Barnes
  7. Christmas in the Sand x Colbie Caillant
  8. Feliz Navidad x Michael Buble, Thalia
  9. Step into Christmas x Elton John
  10. All I Want for Christmas x Mariah Carey

Songs I'm Loving at the Moment:

  1. Soul x Cruso ft. Alice Amelia
  2. Stay Inside x Raleigh Ritchie
  3. Fools Gold x Izzy Bizu
  4. 3005 x Childish Gambino
  5. Black Mermaid x Esthero
  6. Rocket x Beyonce 
  7. Campfire x Satellite Stories
  8. You & I x Crystal Fighters

Monday, December 16, 2013

Books + Films Vol. 2

This list is a continuation of my original to read/watch list posted here, since I either didn't get around to reading/watching or I didn't finish all the books/films on the list. This should be a pretty easy to get through this list this winter before my  hectic spring semester officially kicks in. 

To Read:

  • The 4 Disciplines of Execution: Achieving Your Wildly Important Goals by: Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling
  • The Success Principles by: Jack Canfield with Janet Switzer
  • The Rose Labyrinth by: Tatania Hardie
  • Divergent by: Veronica Roth
  • If on a Winter's Night a Traveller by: Italo Calvino
  • Coconut' by: Kopano Matlwa
  • The Brief and Wonderous Life of Oscar Wao by: Junot Diaz
  • The Fault in Our Stars by: John Green

To Watch:

TV Shows:

  • [started this week] American Horror Story
  • [finish] Breaking Bad
  • [finish] Gossip Girl


  • Invictus (2009)
  • Lost in Translation (2003)
  • Vanilla Sky (2001)
  • Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012)
  • Inside Man (2006)
  • American Beauty (1999)*
  • Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom (2013)*
  • Anchorman 2 (2013)*

What's on your watch/read list this winter? I'm always open suggestions!


Saturday, December 14, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 80 {Good Vibes Only.}

Whenever my mellow mood kicks in, it doesn't always fade within a week.  To get my day started, I typically find something upbeat, but it's a cadence when I settle home in the evenings, lol. I can stay on that musical cloud for a while, never caring to come down from the natural high it gives me, because it is just so zen and tranquil there. And this play list is not just for relaxation; it also ties into what I listen to in order to focus while I'm studying and gets my creative juices flowing when I'm creating or working on a project. So, I created a GOOD VIBES ONLY. playlist to compliment this peaceful experience with downloadable links for some of the tracks! 

{And to interrupt your regularly scheduled program, Beyoncé's visual album was released on iTunes this week on 12.13.13. Boss.}
  1. Only One x Baptiste Trotignon & Mark Turner
  2. Nothing in This World (Tajan Mashup) x Drake + KeKe Wyatt [download]
  3. Turn Your Lights Down Low x Etienne Charles
  4. The Vapors x Jhene Aiko
  5. Trust x Robert Glasper, Marsha Ambrosius
  6. Reason to Live x Brooke Alford
  7. St. Tropez x Intended Immigration [download]
  8. Lesson x Eddie Moore & the Outer Circle
  9. No Time x Hayden James
  10. Be Bad x Luke James
  11. Butterfly x Lenny Kravitz
  12. Doing it Wrong x Drake
  13. Fall in Love x GDNA [download]
  14. Calls x Robert Glasper, Jill Scott
  15. Window Seat x Erykah Badu
  16. Young & Foolish x Bill Evans (Philippe Edison Remix)
Completely separate from this list, but still fitting with the uplifting-my-spirit theme, I've started my morning off with this powerful song, as a prayer. Earlier, a good friend of mine recommended that I meditate on it for a little while. It almost brought me to tears, because, unbeknownst to her, the lyrics are a reflection what my own prayers and journal entries have been saying lately:

"...Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever you will call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior..."

Sunday, December 8, 2013


Inspired by The Indie Byline

♥In Lust with:  his ambition. That's all I can say for now. = )

 Obsessing over: Christian rap music. Lately, I've fallen into a heavier gravitation towards conscious rap. Christianity and a higher truth through lyrics is something that I strongly believe hip-hop is in dire need of, not just for the sake of subconsciously saving souls, but mainly for the younger generation to have something positive to listen to. And it's not just for's just about being open to hearing a great message through mainstream music; music that doesn't just sound good, but feels good also. Believe it or not, what we allow into our spirits affects us in some way or another, so it's important to use discernment in everything. 

♥ Working On:  mentally preparing myself for classes next semester, by staying abreast by studying ahead. Head in the books.  Also, less promoting, more doing is the business lesson of the day.  The magazine not where I need it to be yet, so it's still very conceptual, however, a constant work in progress. Oh, and Vlogmas videos daily, until 12.25.13!

 Favorite Words: Namaste (the universe/divinit in me honors the universe/divinity in you). Agape (unconditional love). Serendipity (finding something good without looking for it). These are indefinitely more than just words; they are also lifestyle choices. 

 Favorite Visual:   Winter nights in the city around Christmas time. It's absolutely magical. I feel this way every year, never fails.

 Favorite Sound: "Hang on the mistletoe, I'm gonna get to know you better/ This Christmas..." on the radio.

♥ Anticipating : Flying into the new year on a strong and positive note + fromawildflower, presented by KL // launch: 01.01.14

 Thinking about:  Planning ahead for the possibility of a New Year in another country next year.  Although NYC would be ideal for NYE celebration, I think I'm just going to do the low key thing at home and church this year.

 Over the Moon aboutGetting back in school.  I mentioned this in a recent vlog that I've taken so much time off from undergrad, it's ridiculous. Now, with a new school and a new major, it's like I'm getting a fresh new start and I'm so grateful for that opportunity to do so.  Knowledge is power.  

 Dreaming OfAchieving all the grand scale goals I've set out for myself. What a beautiful day that will be...

Chymere Anais

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 79 {A.M. Motivation}

All week, my mornings have started with me blasting Church Clothes 2, the second sequence to the Church Clothes mix tapes by Christian rapper known as Lecrae. Further learning about his testimony, after being recently introduced to his music, was just the icing on the cake. The gospel in his message has been delivered in such an unconventional way and throughout his career, he's made a solid name for himself in hip-hop. Because I am a super late bandwagon fan, I didn't want to do a full review of this LP, however, it did motivate me to create a short playlist of [mostly Lecrae] positive, uplifting songs to set an awesome tone for a busy day, in honor of a new generation of gospel music. I also get so much energy from dub step, electronic music, and pop/club dj mixes, but I'll be doing a separate Soundcloud playlist for that later on.  
  1. I'm Turnt x Lecrae
  2. Round of Applause x Lecrae (B.o.B.)
  3. My Whole Life Changed x Lecrae 
  4. Movin' x Ordinary Dreamers
  5. I'm Rooted x Lecrae ft. Derek Minor
  6. Ayo x Andy Mineo
  7. So Glad x Isaac Carree (ft. Kirk Franklin, Keirra Sheard, & Lecrae)
What songs motivate you in the a.m.? 


Thursday, December 5, 2013

Legendary Mandela

{Original work by Patrice Murcia}
It's impossible to really put into words the admiration and respect I will always hold for this man. Nelson Mandela's life was a testimony of living on purpose to make a positive difference in the world and an absolute reflection of both eternal and internal peace. His impact and humility has yet to be measured or understood, but it will certainly be in years to come. My dad has taught me about him my whole life and after reading his autobiography (twice), I gained so many life altering perspectives about who he was and everything he stood for. Not only did he preach on forgiveness, liberation, and solutions through peace and understanding, there is so much to learn from the life he actually led. In his fight to unite Africa, he will always be apart of uniting all nations. History books must now be re-written to acknowledge such a notable man who undoubtedly fulfilled his God-given purpose here on earth; he's more than an international icon, much more than a global humanitarian, and his legacy will live on forever.

Nelson Mandela 
July 18, 1918-December 5, 2013

{Original art work by Patrice Murcia}


Sunday, December 1, 2013

Agapé: The Family Circle

Every year since 1971, we've had a family reunion at Thanksgiving time. People can say what they want about the holiday itself, but for my family, it's a huge deal. For our ceremonial dinner, I was asked to present an occasion speech, that basically explains why we gather and the purpose of the celebration. I don't think I've ever written anything more true and close to my heart as this open letter to my family.  After writing it, I realized how important it is for other families outside of my own to keep family first, above all things tangible, and second to God and faith.  Hopefully, it is received by you all in the way I intended it to be read and that all of you continue to experience a wonderful holiday season. Enjoy:

♥ ♥ ♥ 

Our reunion has stretched beyond the confines of simply being in the company of familiar faces. It has transformed into something bigger than the ceremonial traditions and good food. It's about love and creating a safe haven, a place where, no matter how far we go or how long we are away, we can freely return to the core of ourselves. It is our birthright to embrace that.

This family renuion is about building on the strong foundation pioneered by our forefathers and mothers. In order to grow stronger, there has to be a collective effort from a diverse tribe of beautiful individuals with unwavering roots.

Each one of us are fabricated by an awesome, supreme being and because of that, we are able to celebrate each other in a way that other families have yet to achieve in this lifetime. To believe that fortune is monetary is to not understand what it means to be truly prosperous.

Together, we applaud our accolades and lift each other up in times of struggle. Together, we seek the importance of growth and acceptance. Together, we successfully manifest the existence of a culture that works together in harmony to bring about a thriving community of truth speakers, innovators, and trendsetters budding with knowledge, love, and light.

As we habitually gather, let's not take for granted what a blessing it is to be present, to be surrounded by such a warm, close knit blanket of agapé (unconditional love), nor should we neglect every opportunity to distribute that love to our friends and guest, the honorary extensions of the family circle.

Chymere Anais

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 78 {Sailing Out + Black Radio 2}

Albums I've Been Listening to: 

  • Sailing Out x Jhenѐ Aiko
  • Black Radio 2 x Robert Glasper
Lately, I've been obsessing over the melodic and mellow sounds of these two very different (however, equally satisfying) compilations. The jazz piano of Black Radio 2 caters to my inner piano lover while Sail Out just has a nice, slow tempo bass to vibe to. Yet again, Glasper collaborates with some amazing artists, as he did on the first Black Radio, who really compliment his talent, such as Common, Marsha Ambrosius, and Emeli Sandѐ, to name a few. Taking the time to study his work a little deeper is rewarding in itself, because it has been so long since I even touched a piano and now I'm inspired to get back to where my love of music really started.  I'm a little rusty, but it feels good to be in that space again. 

Jhenѐ has this soft, angel-like voice that makes whatever her voice touches on any given track absolutely compelling and she really has a beautiful way with words. Lyrically, her art seems to reflect her spirit, which is always a good thing.  11.12.13, she graced the world with her first studio album as a sequel to the 2011 Sailing Souls mix tape.  What really makes Aiko stand out is how outspoken she is about her own experiences, perils, and triumphs via her music, which is especially refreshing, to say the least. My favorite songs from this very short LP are Bed Peace (ft. Childish Gambino), Stay Ready (ft. Kendrick Lamar), and The Vapors.

Although it's not really on the subject of what I've been loving as of lately, I can't wait to do another vinyl update for SS, which probably won't be until after the holidays. Fortunately, my hobby of collecting vinyls has become something like a repeated trend so contemporary album's are now available on vinyl and I'm like a little girl in her favorite candy store, only with more selections...pretty sweet! 

What albums are you currently loving?


Monday, November 25, 2013

Holiday Gift Guide + Christmas Wishlist 2013

Exactly one month before Christmas, it's that time of year again to start our holiday planning and Christmas shopping.  I've combined my wishlist with a relatively short and ambiguous holiday gift guide especially for the music lovers, jet setters, techies, and newly weds/ new home owners. Sometimes it can be hard to shop for the people in our lives, so I hope this guide helps makes shopping a breeze!

Chymere Anais

My Wishlist:


  • Quality time with my family



  • 'Chance' by Chanel perfume



  • ankle booties 
  • riding boots
  • scarves
  • fitted jeans
  • fleece leggings
  • a staple jacket

Music + Tech: 

  • Modern turntable {Urban Outfitters}
  • New vinyls 
  • HP Split convertible tablet/notebook
  • Professional camera: Cannon Rebel T3i
  • Vlogging camera: Cannon Powershot

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Organic Living | Vegetarian Holiday

Earlier this year, I decided that I wanted to embrace the vegetarian lifestyle.  It's been really hard and I admit to having a few love affairs with chicken here and there but, I have proudly maintained a 10% meat diet of only chicken and seafood.  When you're accustomed to meat as apart of your normal for 20+ years, the transition can be very difficult to just cut it out "cold turkey", so this year has really been trial and error for me. However, I will say, that the best part about this journey is how much more creative I am in the kitchen and although I liked cooking beforehand, I enjoy it way more now. 

Recently, my best friend has decided to be a vegetarian also, which is exciting because it's still a learning process for both of us.  Having someone there to discuss the joys and perils of a new lifestyle choice with someone who understands. The other day, we were texting about Thanksgiving plans after I sent her a picture of a vegetarian cookbook I found laying around the house. With Thanksgiving next week and Christmas right around the corner, I searched the web to create a unique menu made up of some of my favorite holiday dishes (with a vegetarian twist), not only for fellow vegetarians, but also for meat eaters who may not know what to prepare for vegetarian guest.  Some of the recipes listed are also vegan-friendly.

It's important to be inclusive when entertaining certain guest during the holidays and remember that vegetarian's eat too and, despite the preference to not eat meat, would like to be apart of the traditional feasting portion of the holiday festivities as well.

Appetizers + side dishes:



To all my fellow vegetarians, what's heating up in your kitchen this season? 
Is anyone expecting any vegetarians at their next holiday soiree? 

Chymere Anais


Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Logic vs. Emotion: The Constant Conundrum

A few months into the new year, I made the big announcement to my family members and close friends about my plans to relocate cross country. Leading up to the month I was scheduled to leave, my mind was literally at complete peace with that decision and was excited about this unknown world I was boldly stepping into. It wasn't until a few weeks before I was scheduled to leave where I started to slowly reconsider, because there were some things happening out of my control. Eventually, I convinced myself that it wasn't the right time, so I postponed the move to a later date.

As you can probably imagine, once the skepticism kicked in, I caught myself constantly worried about whether or not I was listening to my own heart, trusting the spirit guide. So many times, our heart will lead us in one direction and our head will tell us to go elsewhere. What happens when people are totally convinced that the conventional route is the right one? What happens when people lose site of their dreams and initial ambitions? They become someone else...and no matter how content they pretend to be within that, caution is often fear in disguise, which can lead to a life of regret and misery, at least in theory. 

Head vs. heart is something all of us go through at some point.  Unlike me, there are people who can make a decision and stick to it, and not once go back to rethink it.  It's apart of having a mind of good entrepreneurship, because there are many occasions  that an individual will be forced to face, as a business owner and leader, to make a solid choice. Because deadlines are in place most of the time, there isn't always enough time or room to keep questioning whether it's a good choice or not. I'm not wired that way and I certainly hope to one day be that decisive. I suppose I can be in practice, but I'm not quite there yet. 

Right now, I am somewhere between where I should be and where I want to be. However, one thing my head and heart both agree that staying here (mentally) is not the smartest solution. Somehow, I feel like clarity is not as far away as it seems.

Chymere Anais

{Special thanks to my good friend J.W. for inspiring the title for this post.}


Saturday, November 16, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 77 {Nakamarra}

There is a funny story behind this song. Sometime this summer, the television was on MTV and I was passively listening to the music videos they were playing. There was one song I heard while I was doing something else and was instantly in love. Soon, it went off and I wasn't able to catch the artist and title. I tried to remember something to Google it, but nothing matched. For maybe an hour, I was torturing myself, because I wanted to feature it on an SS, but then I gave up and told myself that I'd come across it again...eventually. 

 And that is exactly what transpired months later. 

At the beginning of October, I sent out assignments to all the amazing individuals I'm working with for my magazine project. Topic wise, it was pretty much free reign, because it would give me a better look into what they are interested in and hear their unique voice. One of the writers, who goes by the name of Kathrine, submits this amazing article on a band called Hiatus Kaiyote, and a few YouTube videos in the case that I wasn't familiar. Low and behold, Nakamarra was one of the songs she sent and, ironically, the same one I'd been searching for previously in the year. 

So, I've fallen completely in love with the beautiful song all over again; it's been on repeat all week long. Nai Palm, the lead vocalist, has such an incredible voice and I love the spirit that leaks through. It's amazing and I cannot wait to check out more of their music.

Chymere Anais


Thursday, November 14, 2013

Diversity of Being Black

Often times, when people hear or first learn about the African diaspora, it comes from a position of oppression.  To this day, educational institutions mainly emphasize on post slavery conditions and the current state of what it means to be black. Even in African American history courses taught by black professors, the only significant era that is familiar to most of us is the Civil War and the Harlem Renaissance. It's a pure confirmation of the theory that what is known by the elite isn't taught to the masses. No one likes to talk about the royalties and immaculate civilizations before slavery or that the basics of everything we know from math to music originates in Africa...oh, but I will. While it is important to know history and not dismiss any part of it, it is also equally vital to know where the history begins and to paint all dimensions of it.  

Attending a HBCU (Historically Black Colleges and Universities) really exposed me to a lot of things I never would have known otherwise involving the richness and vitality of black culture, not to be confused with or limited to African American culture. Because of that, I began to learn to fully embrace myself and the melting pot of what I am naturally apart of.  For so long, I "knew" about my roots without connecting to them and could never explain to peers how I identify with mulatto if neither one of my parents are of European descent.  In retrospect, I realize how silly it is to believe that being mixed is as restricted and absolute as I thought it was. This realization was confirmed by a former colleague and white man who I assumed was Irish. Ask me how dumb I felt when he told me he was actually African American? The sad part is that he took more pride in saying he was African American than most black people do.  

If you ask anyone who chose to attend a PWI (Predominately White Institution) why they chose their school, I almost guarantee they'll say it's because of the diversity. I absolutely respect that preference and do believe it's essential to interact with people outside of your own understanding to better explore different backgrounds, but have yet to grasp why they feel like that aspect of college is not offered at a HBCU or why unity of black people are looked down upon. The myth that HBCU's aren't "diverse enough" is extremely close-minded and shows a very limited perspective on the world we live in.  It does stand true that Black schools don't receive as much funding as larger Division I schools and lack substantial resources most of the time, however, each color is symbolic of an array of different, yet equally beautiful, cultural experiences. Perhaps, it is the duty of more black people to love ourselves enough to represent ourselves in a better light in order to recreate the standard.

At the end of the day, I am simply a black woman in this skin I'm in...and it took a while to get to that point. Even though labels don't define who I am or who you are, they are attached to us within this human experience and the ones I carry that with pride.  Don't categorize me or put me, or anyone else, in a box, because we are all multi-dimensional. Don't automatically stamp the context of a person's knowledge or capabilities because of race. Last but not least, don't assume that I'll only want to discuss oppression, when my main focus, when it comes to race, is to talk about truth, liberation, justice, and progression.  


Saturday, November 9, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 76 {Songs I'm Loving at the Moment + Updates}

Songs I'm Loving at the Moment:

This week has been both really productive and partially nostalgic, which usually happens when I'm trying to put the puzzle pieces of my life together. After the homecoming festivities died down, I spent a lot of time mapping out the rest of the year.  The best way I know how to describe my year thus far is as a lackluster plateau. The end of it all is so very close. It's very clear to me that November and December are all about reestablishing discipline and focus, so that next year doesn't surpass me the way 2013 has seemed to. And when I turn on BEAST MODE, I cannot be stopped and I've proven that theory to myself plenty of times, so I'm ready to see what's in store for the remainder of the year.

The song featured on today's SS, 'Dear No One', sings my heart. This is definitely my anthem at this point. She always seems to script the very lyrics of my heart, amazingly so, and that is one of the many obvious reasons why I can't seem to get enough of Tori Kelly.  
"...I'm done looking for my future someone/ 'Cause when the time is right, you'll be here, but for now/ Dear no one, this is your love song/ I don't really like big crowds/ I tend to shut people out/ I like my space/ But I'd love to have a soul mate/ And God'll give him to me someday and I know it'll be worth the wait..."
Love and relationships have been on my mind a lot lately. I'm pretty confident that I finally have my head on right when it comes to dating at this point, so all that's left to do is to be patient and patience is one of the biggest lessons I've had to learn and re-learn over and over again in many different areas of my life, so this song really speaks to me in that sense.

I've done enough rambling for now, just wanted to keep my lovely readers posted. Speaking of readers, you guys are so awesome, I feel the love and support every time I receive a comment and it's an incredible feeling that keeps this blog alive.  Some of you have been rocking with me since 2009 on The Sweetheart Chronicles. Even those of you who started with me here on the new blog, it's been almost 2 years! None of it goes unnoticed and I really do appreciate all of you.

That's the end of my spill. Thanks for reading! 



Saturday, November 2, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 75 {#GHOE13}

It's that time of year again, where undergrads, professionals, and alumni all gather in an uproar for the best time of college football season.  It's homecoming! And not just any's the

North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University!!! 
Google it, if you don't believe me. 

All week, I couldn't wait to reunite with all my friends and relive the college memories, the best days of our lives. Of everything planned to keep students and visitors entertained from Sunday to Sunday for the momentous occasion, connecting with friends and former classmates is always the best part.  It's exciting to see everyone on a grown up level, all weekend pretending like we're young and uninhibited again with no apologies/ no judgment for our conduct.

Click the link to see last year's homecoming play list #GHOE12

  1. Pour it Up x Rihanna
  2. Worst Behavior x Drake
  3. Levels x Meek Mill
  4. Shabba x A$AP Ferg
  5. Red Nose x Sage the Gemini
  6. Up, Down x T-Pain ft. B.O.B.
  7. Bounce It x Juicy J. ft. Trey Songz, Wale 
  8. Blurred Lines x Robin Thicke ft. T.I.
  9. Clappers x Wale ft. Juicy J., Nicki Minaj
  10. Fckwitmeuknowigotit x Jay Z Ft. Rick Ross

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Missing My Forever, Pt. II

{click here to read Missing My Forever, Pt. I}

Last night, I had a dream.
Love held us close while you held me.
We were both nestled on an island;
I was laughing, you were smiling.
The sun lit horizon settled in the midst
As the water and the shore shared a kiss.

I tried my very best to be present
And not take the moments for granted,
But when we locked eyes, I suddenly lost the bliss.
I wanted to freeze time before reality finally hit.
As we lose ourselves in this dream together,
I've always only wanted to be yours forever.

From the shore with you to alone in my bed,
Thoughts of you danced wildly in my head;
And no matter how much I tried to squeeze my eyes shut,
I could not re-live that dream after I woke up...



Saturday, October 26, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 74 {Fall PlayList II}

The second fall play list, sound wise, is a little different from the first one I posted a couple weeks ago. It is a bit more personal, in the sense that this play list is a direct reflection of how I've actually been feeling and the mostly love-centric thoughts I've been keeping as of lately. Because it seems to still fit into the mood that fall automatically puts me in, I decided this would be part II. Although I'm sure I've featured at least two of them in previous SS, these are the songs that sang my heart all week long.

  1. Lost and Found x Lianne la Havas
  2. In Your Atmosphere x John Mayer
  3. Time Travel Undone x SZA
  4. Moody's Mood for Love x James Moody ft. Patti Austin*
  5. Devotion x Jessie Ware
  6. Dear No One x Tori Kelly
  7. Alone Together x Daley ft. Marsha Ambrosius 
  8. Smile Like That x Esperanza Spalding
  9. All We Are x Matt Nathanson
  10. Ah Yeah x Robert Glasper (ft. Musiq Soulchild ft. Chrisette Michele)
  11. How to Save a Life x The Fray {in honor of two of the most beautiful souls I've ever loved gone from this life too soon. With the birthday of one and the death date of the other that fell within the same time frame, I celebrate them both, especially this week.}

Chymere Anais

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Dating 101: Date With a Purpose

Many people don't see me as a qualified candidate to dish out relationship advice. Why? Because I'm single and that automatically places my expertise on a novice level.  When it comes back into full circle for the relationships that didn't work out or the situation that never held any relationship type rank, I'm left to feel the urge to sigh a nonchalant 'I told you so', but I do my best to not say those exact words to avoid sounding like a competent jerk. The point is: don't miss the message by [mis]judging the messenger.   It's not like I'm this serial dater, whose track record with men is completely in the dumps, although there is something to learn from that kind of person also, I am single strictly by choice.  And I've learned, from people that have been married for 20 + years that it is better to be happily single than to be miserable in the wrong relationship.  

Dating 102 is my perspective on what dating is beyond the surface.  It is my advice on building confidence when determining not only who, but also how one should date. Please don't just skim through it, because it's easy to take one line out of context if you don't read it, especially if you plan to comment with a burst of disagreement.  Let's begin, shall we?
  1. Keep God first. Now this one is a matter of personal choice.  Everyone doesn't have the same understanding of God.  However, when it comes to your own spirituality, the person you date needs to have parallel beliefs. To be unequally yoked, as Christians would call it, may work for a couple of dates, or maybe even a few years, but not in the long run, unless one set of beliefs are compromised eventually.  
  2. Date with a purpose.  I believe it was a clip from the movie 'Drum Line' that fits perfect for this. "Southern girls don't casually date."  I don't know how true that is in comparison to northern girls, but I do know that at 12 years old, I applauded in agreement with that.  I've always been taught to date intentionally, because otherwise you're wasting valuable time that can never be given back. Some people spend years in a relationship they know was not designed to progress, but they stay with the excuse of how much time has already been invested. The ultimate purpose of dating is to get to know someone, figure out if that is the person you are compatible enough with to see a lasting future potential, and then go from there.  Dating out of boredum or loneliness rarely makes for a stellar relationship. Some view it differently, but fortunately this is my blog, therefore my opinion is validated. 
  3. Allow things to happen organically.  Why is this so important? In mutual interest and attraction, things will happen without force.  It's really simple; try it. 
  4. 100/100.  My best will attract someone else's best. My 50% will attract someone else's {fill in the blank}. If we both come with half, that is all we have to give each other. All or nothing. 
  5. You can't force someone to fit into your own perception.  There is an abundance of good men and women roaming this earth, despite what man made, often miscalculated statistics say based on human population. With that being said, do you honestly believe that every good man or woman you meet is somehow intertwined with your destiny on a romantic?  Just because someone doesn't appreciate the person you are, doesn't make them a bad person; they just aren't for you and that's okay. Every attractive person you meet isn't meant to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, king/queen, husband/wife, however you want to word it, but you can learn something from everyone you meet.  A good woman can inspire a decent man to be a better one and vise versa, but that doesn't mean anyone is allowed to try to change someone by being good to them. There is a difference between being good to someone and being good for someone, and when both happen simultaneously, it's a beautiful thing. 
  6. Don't expect people to have the same understanding that you have about how dating and relationships work. At the start of a fresh new relationship, it's exciting and easy to forget to have that conversation, where both parties can locate the commonalities and differences on how they interpret dating, which will automatically reveal intentions.  This is where a lot of people mess up, because of misunderstanding due to lack of communication.  
  7. Just because someone is being nice doesn't mean they're showing interest.  Please don't fault me for what I'm about to say, but I do think this has a lot to do with the infamous conditioning of daddy issues or things that are a result of broken homes.  Now, this is not something I feel comfortable speaking on, because it's not something I can relate to, so when it comes to that part of this point, I could be wrong.  Girls, especially, have a hard time deciphering when someone is being nice and when someone is showing genuine interest.  Some guys find it difficult to be nice, because girls will think they are showing interest, when all they're doing is being the gentlemen a good parent or set of parents taught them to be. It's the same with guys.  One always ends up being put into a black list category when they weren't showing interest to begin with. 
  8. Last but not least, accept people for who they are and meet them where they are, or don't invite them into your life at all. People will be very honest about who they are, what their intentions are, and where they stand; don't ignore those things.  (see # 6) When it comes to pure malice to mislead, that is all about discernment and trusting yourself.  Trying to change someone, or trying to make them think how you think and see things the same way you do, will only lead to disappointment. Don't expect people to change who they are to accommodate who you are. If you can't accept them from jump, don't dive into anything with them.  Just keep it at hello and keep it moving. 
Perhaps, you're better off not listening to anything I have to say in regard to relationships and stay stuck in the crappy situation you're in.  Or maybe, you'll take my advice seriously and things will turn out wonderfully for you. Whatever floats your boat or steers your yacht is your choice.



Tuesday, October 22, 2013


Inspired by The Indie Byline

♥ In Love with: my new church family. As important as it has always been to surround myself with people I can connect with on a spiritual level, it has been the missing component in a lot of my friendships and it's probably, because I was too closed and resistant to allow those kind of relationships to develop. I am so grateful that I opened my heart up to let new people in my life, especially ones that hold me accountable and allow me to grow in my relationship with God. 

♥In Lust with: technology and how swift and intelligent it is! I find myself totally coveting new gadgets or thinking of ways to revamp (the use of) old ones. It amazes me constantly that genius mind capacity can be transmitted through a device.  

 Obsessing over: Christmas and NYE Plans! I thought I was a little crazy, considering it is just October, but Home Alone came on television this past weekend, so that only encouraged me to feel festive. (lol)

♥ Working On:  A conceptual outline for National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo), which is in November. The annual project was designed to help amateur writers like myself with the discipline and dedication they need to complete a novel, or at least the first draft. 

 Favorite Words: "Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it."-Bill Cosby

 Favorite Visual:  a clean and nicely organized house.  I've gotten into the habit of making sure my vicinity is kept clean, especially my bedroom. Waking up and coming home to a clean room is just so...aesthetically pleasing. I've also been loving fall inspired home decor, such as faux fur throws, cute holiday accents, decorative mantles, etc. There is just something about a clean, cozy interior during the cooler seasons seasons that just warms my heart. 

 Favorite Sound: Lianne La Havas' voice. I've been listening to her a lot lately and those vocals give me chills every time. She is extremely talented, so underrated...and that happens to too many artist; what's new?

♥ Anticipating : a few things. Christmas. The celebration of love at upcoming fall and winter weddings. Watching the harvest of seeds planted last year around this time.  

 Thinking about: where I am mentally, as well as all the things I'm learning in regards to God and my faith. Definitely sensing a progress that took years to unfold. 

 Over the Moon about:  where hard work and patience is taking me and the result of both so far; conquering goals one step at a time.

 Dreaming Of: love...or rather the potential of it showing up in a way I never would have imagined, which proves that God's will is greater.

Chymere Anais


Saturday, October 19, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 73 {Trevor Holmes}

I have been head over hills with singer/songwriter Trevor Holmes this week. Just in case you aren't familiar, I definitely recommend checking him out, starting with his original song, Kiss Me Like That. His voice is just magnetic and that song is adorable.  After being introduced to him by Lisa over at Love to Go, I went back and watched all his YT videos and fell especially in love with his cover of Ho Hey by The Lumineers. I already love the song, but I usually like acoustic versions of songs better. On top of just being super talented, he's quite handsome! Ahh..just a breath of fresh air! Because I love hearing new material from musicians on the rise, I'm typically really good at deciphering rising icons; it's something like a hobby.  Believe me when I say this:  This young man's music career is going to explode in the near future...and I cannot wait. 

 Chymere Anais

Thursday, October 17, 2013

The Anti-Style: Polaroid Ready

For this particular Outfit of the Day, I originally wanted create a layered look centered around a knitted scarf, but it didn't feel that cold out, so I ended up gravitating towards a chambray button up to compliment the mostly black (top, skirt, and tights) ensemble. To me, all the accessories-from my vintage clutch from mi abuela, to my mixed blend of beaded, gold, wood, and cloth jewelry pieces, to my signature floral headband-made this ensemble pop in a very subtle way.

This outfit was a result of closet/room/car shopping for something comfortable and appropriate for newly fall weather. I can't even say I'm responsible for the purchase of most of the items I had on, but they all work together to cater to what I like. 

On my nails, I am rocking my current favorite nail polish [I'm Not Really a Waitress by: O.P.I.], a beautiful deep wine colored red. I color outside the lines a little bit, but that's what I love about The Anti-Style series and expressing myself in general; imperfection is my cup of tea. I'm not perfect, therefore my personal style doesn't have to be either...and I'm absolutely okay with that.


Saturday, October 12, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 72 {Nothing Was the Same}

I've been a fan of Drake since circa 2007, the same year 'Comeback Season' dropped. It wasn't until after that mix tape when I went back and listened to 'Room for Improvement', which was released the previous year. When he first made an appearance on the scene, there wasn't anyone out there like him, at least not in mainstream hip-hop, so I could really appreciate his rather mellow and introspective verses.

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Monday, October 7, 2013

JetSet | Traveling in Style

Autumn Casual

When it comes to my everyday style, I'm all about remaining comfortable while still maintaining all the elements of my own style. This principle is especially applied while traveling. Usually, when I travel, I seem to have an immediate, on-the-go itinerary to tend to and I've learned the hard way that there isn't always time to shower, freshen up, and change outfits. Therefore, I like to stay prepared by wearing something that looks presentable. No one looks like paradise post-flight, but all we can do is try, right?

Apparently, I'm a fan of ripped jeans, simply because they automatically add "edge" to any outfit. I love this outfit because it's rugged, comfortable, with hints of feminine.  It is perfect for that Summer/Autumn transitional weather and I could name a myriad of instances, beyond traveling, where this outfit would be appropriate. That bag is also the perfect size and can work interchangeably as a carry on or a book bag for class. My dream closet is so fabulous and I can't wait until my actual closet is a replica of it!

How do you prefer to travel in style?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 71 {Fall Playlist}

In the fall season, I tend to gravitate towards deeply mellow tunes, and they all usually have a nostalgic feel. As you can probably imagine, it can be full of deeply sentimental moments. On my iPod, this playlist is titled, Fireplace Faves.  I'm also more inclined to pull from my classical music collection during this time, because it helps me study better.  These are lovely songs that are perfect for a cozy, at home listening session cuddled in front of the fireplace with hot tea or chocolate, which I'm sure I will be doing a lot of once it gets colder.  It doesn't quite feel like fall just yet where I live, but this is what my life sounds like in autumn:
  1. What Color is Your Love x Terry Callier
  2. Au Revoir x OneRepublic
  3. How Deep is the Ocean x Diane Schuur
  4. Autumn in New York x Billie Holiday
  5. Harvest Moon x Neil Young
  6. Stubborn Love x The Lumineers
  7. Ruby x Mount Kimbie
  8. Elusive x Lianne La Havas
  9. Lovesong x Adele
  10. Two Doves x The Dirty Projectors
Do you guys have a play list of songs you listen to 
particularly in the fall?? If you do, be sure
to leave your selectionsin the comment section below!

Chymere Anais

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Soundtrack Saturdays: Vol. 70 {Love in Flying Colors}

Back in 2009, I was introduced to The Foreign Exchange and I've been hooked ever since. Polish producer, Nicolay, and NC native, singer/songwriter, Phonte, came together and made an incredible collaboration, mixing so many musical elements to create a unique sound. A truly underrated duo, they prove, collectively, that the essence of music is not yet lost.

Their fourth studio album, Love in Flying Colors, dropped Monday of this week and it's honestly the only thing I've been listening to.  I have been patiently waiting on a new project from them, because it's been a while. Just as any +FE fan would expect, this album has caught my full attention with press play value.

'Authenticity' is still a classic and one of my favorite albums, which has been reiterated several times throughout this blog, but this compilation is just as smooth and soulful as any other record they've produced. It gives off a sort of nostalgic, deep love feeling with the lyrics without being super slow in melody and tempo. It's good, easy listening house music, but a few tracks make me break out and dance around with my invisible microphone. This album is absolutely dope. 

Fave tracks: Dreams are Made for Two, On a Day like Today, and Listen to the Rain

♥ Chymere A.


Friday, September 27, 2013

Dream Again

"You have to set your mind and heart to what you want to do to make your dream a reality. It's never to late to dream again." -Mother Darling

Sometimes I need to hear it again-the calming reassurance from a familiar voice-to pull my mind away from self-doubt and feelings of defeat.

Earlier, I had a refreshing conversation with Mother Darling. There was a little uncertainty floating around my head and I just needed to briefly clear out my frustrations. When she made that statement {above}, I was just so relieved, lucky even, to know she is and has always been in my corner. Because she wasn't the first person I've had that conversation with, it made me think of the responses before her and instead of writing an article about not being afraid to dream again, it transformed into something much bigger than that.

What I'm learning is how to build with people who are just as passionate as I am.  This does not mean that we agree on everything or that we share the same artistic abilities/capabilities; it simply connotes that we are all on the same page about achieving a quality life experience for ourselves and the people we encounter. So, with this realization, I am having to take a personal inventory of individuals who are currently in my life who either don't take me seriously, drain all my energy, and/or bring me down with negativity. The saying goes that you are an average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. At this point, I'm really questioning that, because I am all about surrounding myself with goodness on this journey, even if that means destroying a few bridges along the way. 

Be careful of the conversations you engage in, especially when it comes to great ideas and dreams, because it's vital to be extremely protective of such fragile things. It's a shame that sometimes even the people you've expected to encourage you to dream big[ger] and be happy for you every step up the way aren't the ones you need, but it's also a blessing when you find the jewels who are.  How do I find the diamonds in the coal? Process of elimination.  

Eliminate/let go of anyone who:

  • Agrees with your doubts. As humans, we may accidentally allow our confidence and joy to fade away into the abyss.  Sadly, there are people who will gladly accompany your misery and may even to persuade you to cave in completely.
  • Doesn't see your vision. This is the crazy part, because you also have to use discernment about who you share your visions with. Everyone won't be excited for you. Everyone won't be equally passionate. Everyone won't believe you can do it and some will hope that you don't. Everyone won't be a strong, prayer warrior for you in difficult times. Remember that.
  • Is a negative Nancy. This is anyone who makes you feel bad about letting your light shine. Anyone who doesn't empower you, doesn't benefit you. 
  • Doesn't celebrate small successes with you.  This goes back to finding people who are equally passionate, because if they aren't, they won't be able to appreciate the small steps and milestones towards the bigger goal.  If they can't be there for the little stuff, they don't deserve to be present for the big stuff either.
So, who is left? Your support system, made up of family members, friends, mentors, colleagues, business partners, etc. who have enough respect for you to want you to be the absolute best version of yourself and will never stand by to watch you think you can't achieve the goals you have set to accomplish. It can be hard to discover the people, the wolves in sheep clothing, that you genuinely thought had your best interest at heart, but really don't. It's tough to wave good-bye to people you may have known and befriended for several years. At the end of the day, it is up to you to choose your circle, so choose wisely. 
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